Saturday, July 4, 2009

Being happy and passing it on..

A few days back I was going through a book by Deepak Chopra. There was a particular line by him that just drilled its way right into my brain. I am sharing it here. He was talking about relationships and how we cling on to people as well as objects at times consciously and at times unconsciously. This behaviour is obviously very irritating for the person we are clinging too..but we dont realise its doubly unhealthy and harmful to us than to whom we are clinging. The only option to live happy and fulfilled is to let go. Let go of the past, of failed relationships, of sorrows and pains, of joys that were taken away, of injustice, of love..

To remind us whenever required of how suffocating it is to cling and what a relief it is to let go, he asks us to to do this..

Take in a deep breath, filling your lungs with oxygen
Hold on to it
Don't breathe out for as long as possible
Just keep on holding on to it, it's oxygen, it's yours, it's good, why let it go..keep holding on to it

Sense what you are feeling
Now slowly exhale
let go, even if it is good, even if it is yours, let go slowly
Now sense your feelings!!

I was bowled by this simple exercise, knowing is one thing, and doing it is totally another! Do it will realise the joy of letting go!!

On that note am passing on the two awards that were given to me.

The first one was International blogger's community award from Sucharita Sarkar. Thanks Sucharita it made me feel special.

1. The person who tagged me: Sucharita Sarkar 2. Her site URL: 3. Date of Tag: 28th June 2009 4. Persons I have tagged are:
I am passing on my happiness to

Kishore, SumanDebRay, Shaye of Miller Memories, Anil, JD, and Roshni Mitra Chintalapati

The Rules for this tag are:

1. Link the person who tagged you.
2. Copy the image above, the rules and the questionnaire in this post.
3. Post this in one or all of your blogs.
4. Answer the four questions following these Rules.
5. Recruit at least seven (7) friends on your Blog Roll by sharing this with them.
6. Come back to BLoGGiSTa iNFo CoRNeR (PLEASE DO NOT CHANGE THIS LINK) at and leave the URL of your Post in order for you/your Blog to be added to the Master List.
7. Have Fun!

Questions & Your Answers:
1. The person who tagged you:
2. His/her site's title and url:
3. Date when you were tagged:
4. Persons you tagged:

The second award was The honest scrap award from NR. Wow!! am really happy!

This award is being passed on to

Ishita, Bluebird, Shivi, and Gymnast

I hope all of you enjoy the moment as much as I did and then promptly let it go..
Thanks for visiting. All the encouragement is truly and sincerely appreciated!


Shaye said...

WOW, Sujata. I really enjoy your blog and appreciate your kindness of passing on a sweet award! Thank you so much!


अनिल कान्त : said...

Thanks Ma'm

Nazish Rahman said...

well our unconscious mind overtakes our conscious mind most of the times and actions by the unconscious mind cannot be seen only its results can be seen or realized. I think one should try this as to get control over unconscious mind which is more powerful.

nice post!!!


Suraj said...

Congrats ! I guess all of us deep inside desire appreciation for our work ... and you truly deserve more...keep going !

ZiLliOnBiG said...

wow, very well said about letting it go, but it requires some level of courage and strength.

And congrats for the awards. Cheers:)

nsiyer said...

ice one, Sujata. This exercise really helps.

PURN!MA said...

Heyyy, that exercise was too cool. though I agree very much with Zillion Big. It needs lots of courage, strength and will-power to let go.

And awards Look good! Congrats! :)

Nona said...

A simple method! Thanks for sharing it.

Gymnast said...

I am flattered that you think me as an honest writer. Honest blogger.
Very special coming from you as i admire your writing a lot.

JD said...

Thanks Sujata, I really needed to be happy and stop worrying too much. tc

Indrani said...

As I read I did the exercise... quite simple one and feels good. :)

Congrats on the well deserved awards.

The Survivor said...

Congrats on the awards

Aparna said...

Ok, from now onwards, Deepak is going to be my new guru.
Its great you decided to spread some happiness around. Ishita is thrilled with the award.

Aparna said...

Couldn't stop laughing at my new guru's name. So you inadvertently spread some laughter too. Way to go Sujata!!

sujata said...

@Shaye thanks and welcome, you are a great blogger yourself!

@Anil welcome and enjoy the award.

@NR first let me thank you for passing on the award to me. Coming to the point of the post, I agree that most of the time we do things unconsciously, thats why a proper breathing technique is so helps us to stay focussed. same goes for this exersise.

Suraj Yayy!!

@Zillionbig Thanks. also another thanks for helping me out on the award posting bit. Yes it requires a lot of will to let go..but once its done the peace of mind is amazing and then to think that ohh is this what I was holding on to? is fun too.

sujata said...

@nsiyer thanks a lot.

@Purnima thanks! i keep chking out the awards myself hahha!!

@nona thanks! enjoy the exercise

@Gymnast thanks and welcome!! you deserve every bit of appreciation!!

@JD thanks, hope your child is doing well.

@Indrani thansk a lot.

@The Survivor thanks

@Aparna thanks yah the name is a dampner!! not caught up with you for two days!! it feels like eternity..

Pesto Sauce said...

Beleive me Deepak Chopra is actually effective

Kishore Choudhary said...

Sujata Thanks for passing it to me but i m suffering from amoebiasis. will back soon

numerounity said...

Wonderful blog you have. Keep the good work on:)

Aw.S.M said...

Congrats award winners..:D...and yeah the exercise is nice..i ll try to keep doin it form time to time

Yword said...

It is a lovely thought - to let go. and youare so right when you say the person who clings is the one more hurt by this. wish more people understood this rather commonsensical idea. unfortunately most people would rather cling even to their unhappy relationships for the fear of change is so great.

R. Ramesh said...

wait wait lemme breath in first..haan..what were u saying? wait..haan..hey suj..good post yar..thanks for sharing..

eye-in-sty-in said...

Congrats on the award!

Imagination said...

Amazing Sujata...
But easier said than done.. really need a lot of courage as we are conditioned in a way not to let go our past so easily and especially if it is stuck in our sub conscious mind..

Congrats for your awards

Indyeah said...

thanks for dropping by a few days back:))

Congratulations on your awards :)

Sumandebray said...

That was a nice "hands on" way of teaching (read preaching… lol)... something similar the way stress is explained by the "the weight of a glass in a stressed out hand". I liked it very much, though!

Mem shaheb, Thanks for tagging me. But there is a bit of logistical problem associated to this ... I do not have the means to further forward this 6 more bloggizens.

sujata said...

@Pesto sauce I believe you!

@Kishore get well soon.

@numerounity welcome to my page and pls visit again. Will hop on to your blog in a bit.

@Aw.S.M thanks dear am all happy. And the exercise you do it once in empty stomach and once after meal everyday ok :P:P

@Yword couldnt agree more, we get used to stuff like we get used to our tattered night gowns. Though in shambles and torn at the edges, it feels like an effort to get out of it.

@Ramesh take care R with the breathing bit..what are you letting go of?

@eye-in-sty-in thanks

@Imagination thanks and yes anything worthwhile is difficult. But its worth a try.

@Indyeah thanks

@Suman what happens to a glass in the hands of a stressed person? it breaks? as far as the award goes..its yours..just be cheeky and say "THE BUCK STOPS HERE" Its your space do as you like with it! Put up the award though, your posts deserve it!

Sumandebray said...

here is the Stress story
The teacher asks the student if hold an empty glass with his hand stressed out. The student does it with ease at the onset but as seconds tick away it becomes more and more painful. After a while it becomes unbearable as his entire body is taken over by the pain and he is almost paralyzed. Then has to put the glass down and is relieved.
Stress is like this. So put it down sooner than later or it will paralyze your body and mind no matter how small is that.

Babli said...

Very nice.Heartiest congratulations on the award.

Priya said...

whoaaaa...two at a time.....:)...congratulations and celebrations.. :-)

निर्झर'नीर said...

khoobsurat blog hai aapka
background image man ko bandh rahi hai..
lekhan ke bare mai kya kahe ..english mein tang-e-dasti hai

Rush said...

loved the deepak chopra exercise..will try it out now!!

was on a loong vacation..time to catch up with all ur blogs!!

Bindhu Unny said...

Liked the 'letting go' exercise. I guess most of the time it's the unconscious 'clinging to' that becomes unhealthy. :-)

Roshni Mitra Chintalapati said...

Thank you so much!!
And, you can call me Roshni from now on!! The rest is too long and boring to have to type!!!

sujata said...

@SumanDebRay thats an interesting story. what we focus on too much definitely fills us up with pain.

@Babli thanks

@Priya thanks

@ निर्झर'नीर thanks

@Rush hope you had a godd time

@Bindhu Unny this exercise is a good reminder of what its like to not let go..

@Roshni You are welcome I love your blog!

Meira said...

cool...congratulations :)
And you know what...I never thought about that simple exercise. Now if only we come up with a way to tell people who cling to us...sigh!

Gymnast said...

Hey, am i late to wish you a happy birthday?
Belated birthday wishes to a woderful blogger

sujata said...

Thanks @meira, yah lets keep telling people to do this..quite a subtle hint!!

@Gymnast thanks dear for the wishes. You are just a day late..but how did you know?

Pradip Biswas said...

This is pranayam known as anulom Bilom. I started doing it at the age of 18 due to a incurable digestion problem and benefitted myself. But apart from this and prior to Anulom Bilom you must do the follwing Pranayams:
1. Squeze your belly and chest Take your breath by both the Nostrils and go on taking it till the chest expands. Hold the breath for sometime and then leave it for sometime.

2. Do Kapalbhati for 5 minutes.
3. Then do this Anulom-Bilom at least for 5 minutes.

Anonymous said...

A valuable post and it much helpfull to all.Thanks a lot for your post.

Karim - Positive thinking